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I think
almost everyone wants to have a special formula to solve problems. And this
time Dale Carnegie shares one method with us that he discovered on his journey finding
solutions for worry. There isn’t a magic trick behind it, but this method can
help you to overcome worry and stay calm.
He figured
out that the worst feature about worrying is that it destroys our ability to
concentrate and to think. Whenever we are stressed and worried out thoughts are
just crazy, here and there and we can’t think clearly about the situation. So the
tip he gives us is to accept the worst that can happen. When we accept the
worst that could possibly happen, we have nothing more to lose! And that means –
we have everything to gain!
“Yet
millions of people have wrecked their lives in angry turmoil, because they
refused to accept the worst; refused to try to improve upon it; refused to
salvage what they could from the wreck. Instead of trying to reconstruct their
fortunes, they engaged in a bitter and "violent contest with experience"-and
ended up victims of that brooding fixation known as melancholia.“
Dale calls
the formula that can help us to solve our worry “the old Willis H. Carrier
formula” that says:
1. Ask
yourself: „What ist he worst that can possibly happen?
2. Prepare
to accept it if you have to.
3. Then
calmly proceed to improve on the worst.
So whenever
we find ourselves in a stressful situations where we think everything is
horrible and hopeless, we have to accept the worst that can possibly happen.
For instance, if you think you will fail, because you are soo worried and
stressed that you might be bad at the test, you have to accept that you can
fail. But then, by accepting it you can remind yourself that you can repeat the
test. You also can say you studied hard and did everything. So even if you fail
you know it didn’t have anything to do with you learning not hard enough. Maybe then
you will find out what went wrong and what expects you next time. By doing that
you should feel more calm because you know, you will survive it and you know
what will happen if you really fail.
I’ve tried
this method and it really helped me. Because whenever you are worried you can’t see
any light and think that’s the end of the world! So when we accept the worst we
have more room to think because you already accepted it. And you will find a
solution or thoughts that were clouded by worry. Whenever I
get in stressful situations I always try to apply this method so it will calm
me down.
I hope this
formula will help you too! Of course it is easier said than done but I think
everyone can find the right technique to use this formula. I know you always
have to remind yourself of those kind of things when you are worried. But the
more you try it out and apply it to your situation the more you get used to it
and you feel much stronger in every other situation.
So stay
tuned if you want to hear more about Dale’s tips!
Have a nice
day everyone!
~mako
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